Dreams a possession or a passion.....

As said by Kalam Sir "Dreams are not what you see in sleep rather are the one which don't let you sleep." This is true for few but also a mirage for many. Here I want to ask one thing- Aren't we becoming too passionate about this possession. We live for it and by it. All dreams are not to be fulfilled but yes they are the fuel behind our passions. Dreams are to be lived and along the journey if they get fulfilled ... You are the fortunate one ... Stay blessed.......

Being liberal.....

Just having consent with queen movie does not give you a tag of being liberal. Liberation is about live and let live ....It’s a matter of freedom and freedom here means having option of making choices. It’s about living life on your own terms; it’s about letting other be what they want to be, it’s about being non judgmental (now this is again a learning ). If people around you are under 18 then I can understand your concern though they also don’t want interference anymore....

Choices are again individual decisions and these things give no right to anyone to conclude or comment about individuals or characters. Assessing people based on our own experiences and thought process should not be permitted. Categorising caste, status, creed, habits, choices and life is unfair..........Let everyone breathe...core context of life is about being blissful......try to be happy and make people around you happy else karma is always there......trust it.......

Why not Green Human being???

All over the world so many researches are going on the topics like green marketing, green HRM, green employers and many.....Why we are not urging for green human being. A being who is happy, the one who is at peace with himself and the environment. People with empathy, compassion and integrity will automatically lead to greener organisations, greener societies and further greener nations and world. We all are focusing on better medical facilities, why not health. Our actions and our concerns are contradictory. We all want the problem to be eradicated without working on the cause. Why our contemplation are so superficial and short term. We need to search for life....a life which is at peace with everything around. We should work on needs not on greed.......

‘Serendipity’ a concept or a belief...........

Dictionary meaning of serendipity have words like chance, happy accident and fluke. Well in my opinion it’s a way to live life. A positive approach which lead us to believe that everything happens for a reason.  It gives us hope and jaunty optimism to live life. People all around the world search for mental peace, and we all live with this hope to be fulfilled. As we say umeed pe duniya quaim hai - hope sustains life. It further goes towards karma theory. Sow good to reap well... wow all around us is vicious circle with distinctive patterns the only thing required is decoding ......hahahha ‘again a hope’ ..........go on......

Celebrating femininity........

We can carry the world.....

The way we carry ourselves nobody else under the sky can, the way we carry emotions nobody can, the way we care and love nobody can, the way we carry life nobody else can, the way we carry make up nobody can lol........

It’s not about demeaning anyone, it’s just about being a women.

Happy Women Day to all of us...........

Love you Zindagi.........

Experiences when pleasant become memories and when they fail to fulfill our expectation they become learning. In any which case they give us something or the other. We should try to cherish our experiences as they are because they are the one who make us. They define us and draft our future. The kind of people we come across, the varieties of contingencies faced lead us to these treasures. Human instinct always urge for the best in life forgetting the truth which says that sweetness increases when savoured after sour. And these plus minus is equal to life....so love u zindagi (little bit cliché but a beautiful thought) 

Parvati being God is also a mom.....

If in case any mother to be gets a chance to assemble her sons like Parvati, then no doubt the end product will be surely Ganesha. So even being God, Parvati is a mother and mother is a mother...

Every mother wants her son to be obedient, so called sanskari and for whom mother should be above anything... chahe duniya use papu kahe.... Infact many are even ready to stake their sons married life for the same purpose. He should follow his mother’s orders first. Like Ganesha being worshipped first, mom-to-be want son to be intelligent and be first wherever they go.... list of mom’s also includes conflict management skills, problem solver and omnipresent (atleast when she needs him).....Son to be should have healthy big belly (which never looks big to her ) with bag full of generosity.... He should be a symbol of wisdom, prosperity and attainment to the world, which would silently demonstrate her success as a mother ....He should be responsible to eradicate all the obstacles of her life......same were the intentions of Maa Parvati from the idol which she created from dirt of her body......so at the end we can conclude mother is a mother nothing changes from being a God ......... Expectations from son are same ......

Sometimes 7 course meal is a good option..

Today’s youth at such small age have to undergo so much of stress. Escalating pressure of career engrossed with competition, exaggerated expectations from relationships, pimples, time and money management and what not.Why we want to consume it as an Indian meal all salad, papad, dal subji, roti at a time.

We want to have all on the first day of college and want to know all. Our aspirations and dreams are of the movie 2 states level and please don’t even question about the reality check regarding input they put in, it’s nill batte sannata...  This all in result lead to stress and anxiety. And frustration of youth goes on increasing exponentially. It’s all a game of expectations which come from inevitable globalization. Isn’t this globalocal world pretends itself too expensive???

Khuch toh log kahenge .......Logon ka kaam hai kehna .......

Above written is an Indian saying which means people will say something because this is their work to talk about.........

Nowadays a trending trend is - commenting on comments......it’s becoming a free of cost publicity stunt for many and trust me it’s frugal in every sense.... And a very good way to heat up the environment around. The only point of concern here is that people don’t take care of their domains, they comment all around....no doubt Twitter and Facebook have their empires running on this and they surely might be amicably investing in flaming all this. The question here is the rarely found common sense which let us curb our strongest muscle to stay in order and nowadays also restrict our fingers...... Social media is one of the most powerful and beautiful tool available in our hands with equitable demerits too. Just having a little bit of civic sense and emotional intelligence will be a guide to save us from hurting some unknown....Hope we understand ....

Logic for everything

Once upon a time there was a country known as India where what elders said was obeyed without any question....

I am sure soon this will be the opening line of a saga and people will feel nostalgic about the thought itself. Cause nowadays after every command (as perceived by elders) is  a question of why or why not... you a liable to explain if you want the task to be done or followed. You have to give logic, this radical generation asks for reasons at every step. Well still few ancient genes might be alive but with no guarantee. ...They want to know why to go to temple when God is omnipresent ... no they are not atheist ... they are so called GENX.. the logical ones...they want to know why Sikh wear turban and Jain’s do what they do. And mind you, only saying it’s in their tradition is not enough, your explanation has to be logical. This generation is inquisitive and thanks to psychologically driven parenting which says they are right and hence you are each and every moment standing in witness box.... and above all with a hope that we might be developing his intellectual skill with these logics which give our mind a roller coaster ride....... happy parenting ....

Happy Friendship day.............

We (>=30) never had friendship days. For us every evening was a celebration of friendship. Mothers used to start calling us back home by 7 and till 9 it used to be friendship day ... Cycling purposelessly for hours with no destinations was friendship day.... We never needed Kapil Sharma to make us laugh, we all had our individual ones to laugh out loud.... We never had friendship day because we were always together.

Life was not so busy ... we were not so apart....... Now with over poured to do list and overlapping responsibilities we also feel the need of friendship day...........

Miss u all......Happy Friendship day!!!

Pokémon and GST.......

My son asked me yesterday morning to dress him up for school and I said GST Bill has passed let me read it. He said is it Game of super Taekwondo. I smirked and thought what to expect else of this from Pokemon generation. Then too my mother’s heart itched and I tried to explain him about GST. And a question bounced at me back that is it going to affect video games and movies. I said shut up and go to school.

Then giving it a second thought I felt where he has been wrong. He can’t go to play, thanks to education system and tuition's don’t have time to make friends and roam around independently, credit goes to savdhan India and crime petrol. Even we as parents feel safe when they are at home in front of us.

So all the old school of parenting go in vain. We can’t upbring them in the way we were nurtured. We need a completely heuristic approach. And this leads us to a stage where we ourselves are conscious of our choices and want a ready to cook manual.

Hence forth struggling with Indian school of thought and Pokemon, then too the show is going on....this is the beauty of life ...  

Cause umeed pe Duniya kaayam hai .....

A student of mine said" ma’am.. Maa Hamesha aane wale exam ke liye yahi kehti Rahti ki Bas ye kar le phir Sab aasan Ho jayega " God knows when that time will come . Somewhere down on my heart I felt the pain of today's youngster who after studying for around 3/4th of their life and ultimately find themselves nowhere ....looking into his eyes felt guilty and indignant towards the rotten system.

He was still looking with aspiration for reply at me ... I replied, have you ever visited any astrologer.... He nodded ... I further said with ire ...he also replies the same...  cause both are the sellers of hope.... Both know that the important ingredient to motivate you is to keep you hopeful... in order to keep you persistent your mother implant dreams in your eyes without knowing that they are parallel rooted in her heart too.......

My version of Adam and Eve........

After reading this all males around me are going to look at me with twisted eyebrows... Yaar it's a womania effect, being a woman want to take this privilege and it's just a fiction so chillx guys ........and here we go....

Firstly God made the beautiful world and thought that he needs to make someone more beautiful than this nature, to relish it and he created women. After few years he himself got jealous with his creations peaceful and alluring life. She was happy with herself managing all well so he planned something ... He sent man to the world, initially there were conflicts and shattered peace all around. Few years God got ample amount of drama from his personal 70 mm screen (earth)... But eventually women mastered the art of managing men and world both. She cooked Good food, took care of everyone and everything around and did all to manage solace. Again she was at peace and God at unrest.. Again a khurafat in the process.... Hence he sent his bramastra ...The moment this invention comes into existence women's peace vanished... No guesses required Yepp its AULAD (child). Once this life blooms in her everything in her and around is stressed ... And till the moment she has breathe in her she is worried about this creation of God through her....

How's it??? My version...

Where to go.... Bechara aaj ka youth.......

Youth of today gareeb don't have someone whom they can ask there endless questions. They don't know what they are doing why they are doing and what exactly they want?
 Parents obviously are infected by a disease called generation gap where they them self are trying to understand that how to be a friend of a 22 years techno savvy kid on the block. They (youth) have friends Jo unn jaise hi Hain .. Credit goes to group dynamics which at the end let people with same views remain intact. And being of same age we all are having aass pass ke common issues where the other side will always say yaar Same hai yahan bhi ....Then we have the so called soulmates.. she or he... With whom we are already having so many issues henceforth why to give a new topic of fight or discussion. So where to go whom to talk to. From where should we get the experienced advice else of magazines counselling columns and off course Google Baba. Whose authenticity is always a indignant question and too much of exposer is not that Gud always.....

They make us live in multiple worlds: books

Today I was glad when my 6 years doll asked me that “Maa when will be I able to read Geronimo ki series.”

 Well being a middle class kids that too of our generations (alas not that old) we poor were exposed to school books only. And bahut mummy ko laga toh, in vacations champak and chandamama were sacred gift. Rest we were asked school ki kitabein par lo wahi bahut hai.......At the end of teens mills and boon was considered as a luxury. Foreign authors were like gods. Infact availability of books was also a challenge in small cities. Again tier 1 cities were exceptional. Readers used to share books, discuss each twist with relevant expression and yes the one with latest novel was the richest. Now things are changing even kids have a huge section at books shops, and school along with sentient parents promote reading. For any readers books are not a luxury rather  it is a necessity.

Well books make us live in multiple world; they paraphrase our emotions and help us find ourselves. I mulled at the thought that books are introduced at a very early age but is reading taught .......??

Gossiping - a universal trait...........

Today after spending a complete day gossiping with friends felt guilty and got few thoughts to console my sole...

Why we are so negative about gossiping though it is a basic trait of Homo sapiens. Yes dear you read it right it's not only you-whole world is like that. Men can’t act as proponents and women's can't claim a copyright on it. It's a universal trait. Even the apes have interest in social communication, but the poor babies have trouble in gossiping. 

Wherever, whenever anyone gets a company (with common set of people involved)... What we see is- they rarely or lately discuss ideas. You think that when scientist go for dinner they talk about their project for all the 2 to 3 hours, they do, surely they do but not all the time they are often found discussing about some colleague or their dean and this happens with everyone. They discuss people. The so called "no bitching types" start with positive attitude but where do they end??

Well with a soul at peace and leaving you with guilt and a point to ponder further....

Just a question......

People say generation today is not responsible. Then how are the grades so high? Why are the IITs and IIMs increasing every year? Curriculum taught today is far ahead of previous eras??
My contemplation hinted me that these poor people are giving there hundred percent still expected to give more. Now what next to 100 out of 100. The ample amount of aspirations from this tiny creature claim to be incubators. Callous Parents who were expected to enunciate these mentally virgin buds behave like partners with the third party. Isn't this Tyranny a reason for obdurate future?

Gayab aaya gayab gaya....

Vacations a synonym of smile for children and antonym of peace for parents, but a fact which runs parallel is that both wait for them for any which reason. The quantity of time which we spent in waiting for vacations is directly proportional to the speed with which they get spent. Spending time with friends and relatives bring the same sweetness to life which mango carries in summers.  With all the glamour of masti, overeating , afternoon naps , long shopping hours, nonstop laughing , cribbing about heat , gossiping , children's shouting and getting scolded every now and then and what not ......Whatever .....Per phir bhi everyone waits for them ....and they always fly.............

Alzheimer or ignorance ??

We humans forget everything chahe woh kal raat ka dinner ho or nirbhaya or augsta westland case. This doesn’t mean we are not concerned, we talk about all this in social gatherings for hours and behave high class further pretending to be intellectual with these heavy topics. Like we have plus and minus of everything so likewise we have for the same. Epistemology says forgetting makes forgiving easy-no doubt, though get miffed by the thought that does it make sense always. Incubated by ignorance we surpass many issues which are important to us. Might have started with an option and now imbued in our culture. It’s a habit or a disease?? Needs a psychological assessment........