Love you Zindagi.........

Experiences when pleasant become memories and when they fail to fulfill our expectation they become learning. In any which case they give us something or the other. We should try to cherish our experiences as they are because they are the one who make us. They define us and draft our future. The kind of people we come across, the varieties of contingencies faced lead us to these treasures. Human instinct always urge for the best in life forgetting the truth which says that sweetness increases when savoured after sour. And these plus minus is equal to life....so love u zindagi (little bit cliché but a beautiful thought) 

Parvati being God is also a mom.....

If in case any mother to be gets a chance to assemble her sons like Parvati, then no doubt the end product will be surely Ganesha. So even being God, Parvati is a mother and mother is a mother...

Every mother wants her son to be obedient, so called sanskari and for whom mother should be above anything... chahe duniya use papu kahe.... Infact many are even ready to stake their sons married life for the same purpose. He should follow his mother’s orders first. Like Ganesha being worshipped first, mom-to-be want son to be intelligent and be first wherever they go.... list of mom’s also includes conflict management skills, problem solver and omnipresent (atleast when she needs him).....Son to be should have healthy big belly (which never looks big to her ) with bag full of generosity.... He should be a symbol of wisdom, prosperity and attainment to the world, which would silently demonstrate her success as a mother ....He should be responsible to eradicate all the obstacles of her life......same were the intentions of Maa Parvati from the idol which she created from dirt of her body......so at the end we can conclude mother is a mother nothing changes from being a God ......... Expectations from son are same ......

Sometimes 7 course meal is a good option..

Today’s youth at such small age have to undergo so much of stress. Escalating pressure of career engrossed with competition, exaggerated expectations from relationships, pimples, time and money management and what not.Why we want to consume it as an Indian meal all salad, papad, dal subji, roti at a time.

We want to have all on the first day of college and want to know all. Our aspirations and dreams are of the movie 2 states level and please don’t even question about the reality check regarding input they put in, it’s nill batte sannata...  This all in result lead to stress and anxiety. And frustration of youth goes on increasing exponentially. It’s all a game of expectations which come from inevitable globalization. Isn’t this globalocal world pretends itself too expensive???

Khuch toh log kahenge .......Logon ka kaam hai kehna .......

Above written is an Indian saying which means people will say something because this is their work to talk about.........

Nowadays a trending trend is - commenting on comments......it’s becoming a free of cost publicity stunt for many and trust me it’s frugal in every sense.... And a very good way to heat up the environment around. The only point of concern here is that people don’t take care of their domains, they comment all around....no doubt Twitter and Facebook have their empires running on this and they surely might be amicably investing in flaming all this. The question here is the rarely found common sense which let us curb our strongest muscle to stay in order and nowadays also restrict our fingers...... Social media is one of the most powerful and beautiful tool available in our hands with equitable demerits too. Just having a little bit of civic sense and emotional intelligence will be a guide to save us from hurting some unknown....Hope we understand ....

Logic for everything

Once upon a time there was a country known as India where what elders said was obeyed without any question....

I am sure soon this will be the opening line of a saga and people will feel nostalgic about the thought itself. Cause nowadays after every command (as perceived by elders) is  a question of why or why not... you a liable to explain if you want the task to be done or followed. You have to give logic, this radical generation asks for reasons at every step. Well still few ancient genes might be alive but with no guarantee. ...They want to know why to go to temple when God is omnipresent ... no they are not atheist ... they are so called GENX.. the logical ones...they want to know why Sikh wear turban and Jain’s do what they do. And mind you, only saying it’s in their tradition is not enough, your explanation has to be logical. This generation is inquisitive and thanks to psychologically driven parenting which says they are right and hence you are each and every moment standing in witness box.... and above all with a hope that we might be developing his intellectual skill with these logics which give our mind a roller coaster ride....... happy parenting ....

Happy Friendship day.............

We (>=30) never had friendship days. For us every evening was a celebration of friendship. Mothers used to start calling us back home by 7 and till 9 it used to be friendship day ... Cycling purposelessly for hours with no destinations was friendship day.... We never needed Kapil Sharma to make us laugh, we all had our individual ones to laugh out loud.... We never had friendship day because we were always together.

Life was not so busy ... we were not so apart....... Now with over poured to do list and overlapping responsibilities we also feel the need of friendship day...........

Miss u all......Happy Friendship day!!!

Pokémon and GST.......

My son asked me yesterday morning to dress him up for school and I said GST Bill has passed let me read it. He said is it Game of super Taekwondo. I smirked and thought what to expect else of this from Pokemon generation. Then too my mother’s heart itched and I tried to explain him about GST. And a question bounced at me back that is it going to affect video games and movies. I said shut up and go to school.

Then giving it a second thought I felt where he has been wrong. He can’t go to play, thanks to education system and tuition's don’t have time to make friends and roam around independently, credit goes to savdhan India and crime petrol. Even we as parents feel safe when they are at home in front of us.

So all the old school of parenting go in vain. We can’t upbring them in the way we were nurtured. We need a completely heuristic approach. And this leads us to a stage where we ourselves are conscious of our choices and want a ready to cook manual.

Hence forth struggling with Indian school of thought and Pokemon, then too the show is going on....this is the beauty of life ...  

Cause umeed pe Duniya kaayam hai .....

A student of mine said" ma’am.. Maa Hamesha aane wale exam ke liye yahi kehti Rahti ki Bas ye kar le phir Sab aasan Ho jayega " God knows when that time will come . Somewhere down on my heart I felt the pain of today's youngster who after studying for around 3/4th of their life and ultimately find themselves nowhere ....looking into his eyes felt guilty and indignant towards the rotten system.

He was still looking with aspiration for reply at me ... I replied, have you ever visited any astrologer.... He nodded ... I further said with ire ...he also replies the same...  cause both are the sellers of hope.... Both know that the important ingredient to motivate you is to keep you hopeful... in order to keep you persistent your mother implant dreams in your eyes without knowing that they are parallel rooted in her heart too.......

My version of Adam and Eve........

After reading this all males around me are going to look at me with twisted eyebrows... Yaar it's a womania effect, being a woman want to take this privilege and it's just a fiction so chillx guys ........and here we go....

Firstly God made the beautiful world and thought that he needs to make someone more beautiful than this nature, to relish it and he created women. After few years he himself got jealous with his creations peaceful and alluring life. She was happy with herself managing all well so he planned something ... He sent man to the world, initially there were conflicts and shattered peace all around. Few years God got ample amount of drama from his personal 70 mm screen (earth)... But eventually women mastered the art of managing men and world both. She cooked Good food, took care of everyone and everything around and did all to manage solace. Again she was at peace and God at unrest.. Again a khurafat in the process.... Hence he sent his bramastra ...The moment this invention comes into existence women's peace vanished... No guesses required Yepp its AULAD (child). Once this life blooms in her everything in her and around is stressed ... And till the moment she has breathe in her she is worried about this creation of God through her....

How's it??? My version...

Where to go.... Bechara aaj ka youth.......

Youth of today gareeb don't have someone whom they can ask there endless questions. They don't know what they are doing why they are doing and what exactly they want?
 Parents obviously are infected by a disease called generation gap where they them self are trying to understand that how to be a friend of a 22 years techno savvy kid on the block. They (youth) have friends Jo unn jaise hi Hain .. Credit goes to group dynamics which at the end let people with same views remain intact. And being of same age we all are having aass pass ke common issues where the other side will always say yaar Same hai yahan bhi ....Then we have the so called soulmates.. she or he... With whom we are already having so many issues henceforth why to give a new topic of fight or discussion. So where to go whom to talk to. From where should we get the experienced advice else of magazines counselling columns and off course Google Baba. Whose authenticity is always a indignant question and too much of exposer is not that Gud always.....

They make us live in multiple worlds: books

Today I was glad when my 6 years doll asked me that “Maa when will be I able to read Geronimo ki series.”

 Well being a middle class kids that too of our generations (alas not that old) we poor were exposed to school books only. And bahut mummy ko laga toh, in vacations champak and chandamama were sacred gift. Rest we were asked school ki kitabein par lo wahi bahut hai.......At the end of teens mills and boon was considered as a luxury. Foreign authors were like gods. Infact availability of books was also a challenge in small cities. Again tier 1 cities were exceptional. Readers used to share books, discuss each twist with relevant expression and yes the one with latest novel was the richest. Now things are changing even kids have a huge section at books shops, and school along with sentient parents promote reading. For any readers books are not a luxury rather  it is a necessity.

Well books make us live in multiple world; they paraphrase our emotions and help us find ourselves. I mulled at the thought that books are introduced at a very early age but is reading taught .......??

Gossiping - a universal trait...........

Today after spending a complete day gossiping with friends felt guilty and got few thoughts to console my sole...

Why we are so negative about gossiping though it is a basic trait of Homo sapiens. Yes dear you read it right it's not only you-whole world is like that. Men can’t act as proponents and women's can't claim a copyright on it. It's a universal trait. Even the apes have interest in social communication, but the poor babies have trouble in gossiping. 

Wherever, whenever anyone gets a company (with common set of people involved)... What we see is- they rarely or lately discuss ideas. You think that when scientist go for dinner they talk about their project for all the 2 to 3 hours, they do, surely they do but not all the time they are often found discussing about some colleague or their dean and this happens with everyone. They discuss people. The so called "no bitching types" start with positive attitude but where do they end??

Well with a soul at peace and leaving you with guilt and a point to ponder further....

Just a question......

People say generation today is not responsible. Then how are the grades so high? Why are the IITs and IIMs increasing every year? Curriculum taught today is far ahead of previous eras??
My contemplation hinted me that these poor people are giving there hundred percent still expected to give more. Now what next to 100 out of 100. The ample amount of aspirations from this tiny creature claim to be incubators. Callous Parents who were expected to enunciate these mentally virgin buds behave like partners with the third party. Isn't this Tyranny a reason for obdurate future?

Gayab aaya gayab gaya....

Vacations a synonym of smile for children and antonym of peace for parents, but a fact which runs parallel is that both wait for them for any which reason. The quantity of time which we spent in waiting for vacations is directly proportional to the speed with which they get spent. Spending time with friends and relatives bring the same sweetness to life which mango carries in summers.  With all the glamour of masti, overeating , afternoon naps , long shopping hours, nonstop laughing , cribbing about heat , gossiping , children's shouting and getting scolded every now and then and what not ......Whatever .....Per phir bhi everyone waits for them ....and they always fly.............

Alzheimer or ignorance ??

We humans forget everything chahe woh kal raat ka dinner ho or nirbhaya or augsta westland case. This doesn’t mean we are not concerned, we talk about all this in social gatherings for hours and behave high class further pretending to be intellectual with these heavy topics. Like we have plus and minus of everything so likewise we have for the same. Epistemology says forgetting makes forgiving easy-no doubt, though get miffed by the thought that does it make sense always. Incubated by ignorance we surpass many issues which are important to us. Might have started with an option and now imbued in our culture. It’s a habit or a disease?? Needs a psychological assessment........

Exam time – Simhansth 2016

This simhansth  the limelight was turned completely towards administrations-  may be najar lag gayi hogi or may be this simhansth is more techno savvy so Indra Devta might have  received the pled for rains before time. Myriad arrangements of government went into water within minutes... sab pani pani ho gaya. But it’s important to keep in mind that we are well prepared, no where means that we will excel smoothly.... you might have heard manyatimes that bhagwan un ki hi pariksha leta hai jo uss ke kabil hote hain....This is no doubt a check of the administration and  its system . A test of our believes and conviction....  .... in India people are expected to grovel on anything but no not on this...

The show must go on and it will......... 

For everyone - simhansth 2016

Mirth of spirituality and organised consortium a rare combination can be seen this time at simhansth’2016. Overflow of people no doubt justifies our population. Happy to see polite police officials even after hours of duty, optimum utilization of resources by administration and ofcourse renovated Ujjain.... so much that even our auto wala lost his way twice. Hermits everywhere don’t know from where they came and will eventually evaporate afterwards. And of course our TV wale lavish baba’s. This topic is incomplete without discussing the complication in understanding the cult of naga sadus....one of the major attraction of kumbh . Felt an ire inside when was unable to understand the reverence behind there conviction. Besides astrological significance it is a must watch cause sit comes once in 12 years and no need to mention world is changing every minute......

Do that one page so called ‘mark sheet’ changes your love for your kid?? Think twice….

If the answer is no and I know it’s a big NO then why kids are scared of result. Then why students commit suicide? We all should think that if given a choice between an unemployed son/daughter and a childless life, everyone obviously is going to choose the first one. Though this being the truth we get influenced by society and make our kids rats. But another perspective is again if we don’t be strict then how they will survive cause at the end - its nature which is nothing else but jungle raj  …. Survival of the fittest is the rule of the life.

Now this is the viscous circle called life where you are domesticated in these
traps so that the show goes on…………..

Increasing Para !!!

Hai hai garmi……..uff uff garmi……..As I say this suddenly I get a revert abhi kahan beta Abhi toh April start hua hai.

Well thus temperature gives us very good excuse for deteriorating efficiency and increasing naps. Mouth filling taste of mango and scorching sun confuses me ki hansna hai ya paseeno paseen hona hai ……With the arrival of a beautiful season we start having endless debates about the changing environment without planting even a single tree. We pity for water scarcity while relaxing in bath tub ……

People around us speak with an intellectual expression on the face about global warming. We start watching ice melting on national geography channel. The  search for a hypocritical way to justify ourself that we are doing our part end up on the terrace of our house when we look at water recharging system with a satisfactory smile ……… 

Textrovert : a new word for terminology or psychology……

Yesterday while surfing internet I found a new word textrovert. Further its meaning tickled my grey matter more.

Textrovert (n) means a person who feels more comfortable talking over text than to your face.

So now if you can’t propose her or complain her on face, don’t worry you have a category to fall in. You can type whatever you want to say and text… so easy na…Now what about the truthfulness of eyes and the long pauses. For this I think emoji (emotives) and stickers can do the favors. Where to go man, cyber law says if a girl finds my emotional expression offensive she can sue you and here I am “A Textrovert”…Huh….Now you can explain your status to everyone and anyone through a text. So now onwards all the famous theories on personality types have to go for an up gradation. And where our society will slot this new jargon like, it used to accept male as extroverts and female are expected to behave introvert. What to do with textrovert?? Well let the psychologist do their work till then I am happy texting my hubby ……….”pls TV ki awaj kum kar Lo”….

Nonjudgmental : a simple solution …

Being nonjudgmental a concept which tell us to look beyond good or bad, fair or unfair. This leads us to empathy, where we can see beyond resultants. We stop judging people on deeds rather see for the means. Theoretically the world works on cause effect and socially we are trained to judge on effects. And when we start to see for the cause we move towards the broader picture which allows us to be nonjudgmental. We can breathe with more of trust and understanding. This is the place from where we can see less of the culprit in anyone; we can analyze situations better and see for better solutions. It enlightens us to look people beyond victims.

We judge less so we think more………

Musing just like that ....

Patterns of life......

In childhood we have energy, we have that courage to do anything which we feel like but we lack in knowledge and experience. We don’t have autonomy and resources. We don’t have direction, we are dependent. In adolescence we are creative spontaneous, we have guts that too power packed, but the missing element is the sincerity and vision.  As we grow up we develop a motive in life, we have resources backed by knowledge but where is that freak attitude that light hearted daring. Further all this leads to a calculated mind, a cautious species. Our society also contributes equally by restricting autonomy to kids (which obviously can’t be given), resources to adults and flowing adults with responsibility. Somewhere don’t you find all this strategic? All this gives me the feeling of maintaining balance and the one who maintains the balance with innovation finds the treasure.

                This is the beauty of life .......haina....

Westernization or Convenience?

Here I am, again with a question. Hope you don’t start thinking of me as confused women. Overruling your derivations and giving importance to my own instincts which believe in the quote of Albert Einstein “Important thing is not to stop questioning”.

So the question is we truly moving towards western world or it is  just the matter of convenience?

Everyone opting for English over Hindi is a cause to prefer market trend or reason is that learning 26 letter is easy as compared to ‘Matra’ combination  (no offence please I believe Hindi to be the most expressive language in itself).

Choosing jeans over saree or suit ... saree is one of the most elegant attire under the world. But given a choice to most of today’s women they will prefer jeans cause takes milliseconds to get ready and of course washing is the last thing which comes to mind.

Our education system the biggest gift or curse of British, don’t know. They obviously gave us an easy option in comparison to slokas and the gurukul system which was neither easy nor available to everyone because our nation is inflicted by the termites of caste discrimination.  Likewise if we see around we all will have ample of examples.

All this leaves me contemplating about another section of my mind which believes in my own culture and sayings. Though English is easy but I am more comfortable in Hindi, let jeans be any much comfortable still I look the best in a saree. Westernization can influence our mind but our soul is and will be Indian.

Then why whole lot of oldies are screaming about westernization.......

Chidiya chug gayi khet.. Now??

A youngster opted for course in animation for graduation and MBA for post grads, BCA and then MBA, why not MCA? A very common phenomenon around us .Do we ever think why this or why that?

We in India come to know about our interest at the age of 21 – 22 tab tak toh Chidiya chug gayi khet.... We are already a graduate admitted in PG College. Thanks to our socially pressurized parents who with or without any reiki just believe on the alluring well-wishers who don’t even know us pretend to be pensive and decree our future. Imagine investment of 22 years “of your life” has to be revised ...lol...jo chal raha hai chalne do ...Naa ho payega...

Curriculum of MBA gives me a perception that it might have started with holistic approach but camouflaged itself into a glamorous baby doll. Being an academician feel like we should have psychometric analysis before opting specialisations. This  is there in the market but more as a business. We should cease opting a particular course cause marketing ka bahut scope hai boss, or HR is good for girls so the myths go on. Scope of the market is not going to convert your introvert genome, we have to check ourself if we don’t want to spend our life doing something for which we are not made. I know this sound like a filmy advice.

Then which way to go ... answer lies from day one in simple concept told by Buddha, applicable till date... “Know thyself”. Hey ram such a deep concept for nanhi si jaan... again leave it .......Naa ho payega. 

Jattbudhi – used or misused

Current news is flooding with Jatt asking for reservation in Haryana. Requirement of reservation is for them who are incapable. Are they shouting, fighting and destroying their own beautiful province to prove that they are incapable. Jatt in my memory are people with abundance of health, wealth and ofcourse not to forget guts. They make Haryana and Punjab beautiful, lively and rich.

Reservation started being just a weapon of government to deal with caste discrimination, further continued as a vote generating magical stick and today bounced back as a punching bag. 

Is being a mother itself is confusing ???

Can’t we poor mothers have some formal education or some beginners manual to solve the biggest challenge of our life i.e. what to do and what not to do with these tiny creatures-kids?

Being a mother since last 12 years made my grey matter a volatile substance.  A section of immaculate learning says let him do what he wants to do then god forbidden can’t even imagine his downwards shooting grades which can lead me towards a heart attack. And if I dare to follow system then the world curse me for being over ambitious. While providing him food if we go by choices then the million dollar question is whose??  Mine (nutritious) vs. His (Junk). To send them for coaching’s or give your evening chills and thrills?    The veracity of my emotions lies in sleepless nights and shouting mornings.

Once heard while making them grows we evolve. Just want to ask a last question.. Whom to blame the system, our own upbringing or the baba Ranchod Dass - a trigger to my dilemma...

Still Dicey..............

Again a new blogger on the floor...........

Again a new blogger on the floor...........

We all have friends who always overestimate us, likewise I am also privileged with few. They supported this new bug of writing in me and here I am with a blog. Though created account many years ago but ignited now. God bless Google baba for providing recipe to all these craving and as they(my friends) said writing will give me a platform to express more without estimating that being a women who speaks a lot and everywhere platform is never a question . Like all new beginners don’t know which way to go, so categorizing is still not in mind. So here I am with lot to say..............